What Guys Need to Know About Girls

Guys, this one’s for you! If you keep entangling yourself in messy situations with girls, it’s probably because you just do not understand them. Stop breaking the cardinal rules, because in doing so, you are probably making the situation harder for yourself than it actually needs to be. Do not overthink it– just follow the basic guidelines for what most (mature) girls are after:
1. Girls want honesty. We may not always like what it is you have to say, but we do respect you for saying it, and we prefer to hear the truth. This does not mean that the next time a girl asks if you like her outfit that you tear into it like you’re on E news. Just do not “protect her feelings” from things she needs to know, because–let’s be honest–you aren’t as concerned with “protecting her feelings” as you are about “covering your ass.”

2. If you’re not into it, say so. I cannot stress this enough: one of the things that turns normal girls psycho fast is when you try to blow her off. Hey, I get it–sometimes you meet at a party, you’re both a little drunk, and the next time you’re with her you just aren’t feeling it. That’s okay! All we ask is that you tell us you aren’t interested. DO NOT make a girl feel hopeful, and then play the avoidance card. Hearing that you don’t want us will make us move on, typically in a pretty cool state, but stringing us along makes us obsess about what you’re thinking, as opposed to forgetting who you are!

3. We need the physical too. A lot of guys go with the stereotype that all girls are looking to be in a relationship, so therefore if you want to have a good time you need to cut and run. Get over yourselves. Sometimes all a girl wants is to have a good time. I’ll concede that it is a lot easier for a girl to develop deeper feelings, but whether that happens or not, we look forward to getting physical too! Whenever you push us to the bottom of your list, we know what you’re doing, and it’s ultimately a major turnoff.

4. Girls like guys who are easygoing and who make them laugh. However, guys need to distinguish between laughing at themselves and laughing at the girl. Too often, you guys think you are being the funny guy by picking on the girl you’re with. Newsflash: we aren’t in elementary school anymore! It’s okay to poke fun, but after a while it just feels like someone nitpicking, and no one wants to feel ridiculous through an entire conversation. When you are actually starting to talk, take her seriously, and even if she messes up what she was trying to say, if you know what she meant just let it go!

I hope these basic tips help, because–to be honest–you will have less problems and more successful endeavors if you follow them. Girls boil down to respect and honesty. Tell her the truth and take her seriously, and you might be surprised what she is not only willing to do, but actually wanting to do.