Let’s Keep It in Perspective

By Patrice Pilgrim on July 8, 2019

So, guys, I recently had to sit an exam that I had been preparing for, for over 6 months. I had studied, I had reviewed the test preparation materials, I had practiced the various question types. I went into that exam room ‘primed’ and ‘pumped’ to not only sit that exam but to destroy it.

Guess what happened? I failed. I was a wreck. I went to Applebee’s and had a rack of ribs and some libations. I definitely cried as well. When I had had a chance to sit down and really process what had happened, I was able to realize that the exam did not define me and that I did not need a passing score on that exam in order to validate my intelligence.

Now, I am not saying that tests aren’t important or that they don’t have their place in our educational system. What I am saying is that sometimes, even when we make all the necessary preparations – we fail. And as hard as that is to hear, you guys need to hear it. Failure isn’t bad when it happens. What’s bad is failing to get back up again. I needed a minute to remind myself of this.

When I got home that evening, my oldest son looked me in the face, and he could see that I was upset. When he asked what happened and I told him, this was his response: “Mummy, you are the smartest person I know. There’s nothing wrong with you not passing the test. You will go back; study and you’ll pass it the next time;” (he is nine going on 30).

His encouragement was the boost to my bruised ego that I needed. I went back and doubled down with my preparations. I passed it on the retake. Now I didn’t share all of this to have everyone in my personal business, I shared it to prove a point. Though it might feel as if it’s the end of the world, and you might feel as if you are less-than for failing the test, just remember. When you fall down – it’s just another opportunity to get back up and try again.

I am mother to Thanos (my 3yr old Keegan) and Loki (my 9yr old Keyon). Wife to the boss (behind the scenes organizer) and sounding board to my 3 sisters and only brother. When I am not filling one of these roles, i am working on my assignments for my classes and completing the pre-requisites for my teacher preparation program. My personal mantra is - 'knowledge is power', I believe that the more we educate ourselves, the better able we will be to make more sound judgement calls in all aspects of our lives.

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