Am I My Sister's Keeper or Hater?

By Kennisha Crawford on June 13, 2017

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Here’s an unspoken truth: more men respect and are loyal to their “brotherhood” than women are to their “sisterhood.” A woman would betray her friend first before a man would betray his. A woman would hate on, be jealous of, talk about, and envy her friend before a man would do any of this to his.

I find it so sad yet fascinating in a weird way that women act this way towards one another. Where does this mentality come from to instantly not like another woman because of how she looked at you or because she rubbed you the wrong way the first time you met her? Are we women born this way?

Sisterhood” seems to be a dying breed in this world, even amongst women who are biological sisters. It would seem that most women’s insecurities, like lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem, rear their ugly heads when face to face with another woman. Some play the part of showing “fake love” to other women immensely well while others can’t congratulate or compliment another woman without a sarcastic remark.

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Why does it seem so hard for women to be genuinely and sincerely happy for other women? Why is it an automatic inclination to find the bad in another woman before trying to find the good? Men are such better friends to each other than us women.

Men will be there for their “brother” when needed. Men will not gossip about nor judge their “brother” no way near as much as women do to their “sisters.” Men are rarely in competition with each other as opposed to us women who try to compete with one another on a daily basis. Most men won’t care about what another man is doing, while a woman will be oh so concerned about another woman and her actions.

True friendships amongst women are a rarity to find. Who wouldn’t want a group of dope women friends that are there for you no matter what, support you in everything you do and are 100 percent loyal and true at all times? The saying goes, “keep your friends close and your enemies even closer;” I think that should be reversed. You should keep your enemies close and your friends even closer because your friends are your blind spot. They can backstab you and betray you before you even see it coming.

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Being a woman is magic. We possess such tremendous qualities and skills that help keep this world spinning. We are all beautiful and unique. The last thing we should be doing is hating on one another just because one has certain qualities or looks better than the other. We should be empowering each other! If you see another woman going through something you can help her with, then help her. Don’t talk about, laugh at, and judge her. What she is going through today could be your own situation tomorrow.

To be blunt, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH OF THE “CATTY” BULLSHIT! We will never fully grow as a people if we continuously knock each other down. That goes for all genders and races. We, women, are divine creatures. Men would not last very long on this earth without us. James Brown said it best: “It’s a man’s world but it wouldn’t be nothing without a woman or a girl.”

Let’s do better ladies! 

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