How to Deal with a Break-Up

By Karla Bennaton on April 21, 2016

Source:ottmag.com

We’ve all come across a terrible break up at some point in time and we can all agree that well, it sucks. Dealing with a break up is not an easy thing to do but with the help of family and friends and a few words of advice, you might be able to overcome it. Here are a few general rules that you should stick to if you’re trying to get over a recent break up.

1. Give yourself time

After any relationship, it is important that you give yourself time to move on. Time is not only important to move on but also to reflect on the relationships and the event that brought you to this culminating moment. Sometimes break ups are not forever, they can be temporary. Maybe you two just need some time apart to figure out what you really want and this isn’t always a bad thing.

2. Keep yourself busy

Keeping yourself busy after a break up is probably one of the best things you can do. If you stay at home all day doing nothing then you’re more like to get depressed. The last thing you need is to stay home crying and thinking about all the things that went wrong. Go out with some friends, pick up some extra shifts at work, read a book and if it’s within your budget maybe even take yourself on a little vacation.

3. Rely on your family/friends for support

It is during times like this that you should rely on family and friends more than ever. They are always there for you no matter what happens and a broken heart is not anything less to worry about because you know they’ll take care of you.

4. Try to get rid of anything that reminds you of him/her

The worst thing you could probably do is walk into your room and see everything that reminds you of him/her. Do yourself a favor and start getting rid of everything that reminds you of this person whether it is their clothing, a picture of the two of you, an object, etc. It’s up to you if you want to keep the gifts that they gave you but if you think that getting rid of them will ease the process then by all means, dispose of them.

5. Give each other space

After a breakup it is important that you give each other space to move on. Keeping in constant contact with someone after a break up is not the best thing. You might miss each other and think that you want to get back together but why’d you break up in the first place? This can get a little bit confusing which is why you should give each other space to think and figure out if this is what you both truly want.

6. Exercise or meditate

Exercise and meditation is always good to balance the mind and the body. Whether you’re going through a break up or not it’s always good to set some time aside to make sure that your physical and mental health is in good standing. Exercise helps release endorphins which make you happy specially when you’re going through a tough time like this. Yoga and meditation can help restore the mind and leave you feeling relaxed specially after a long week. If you’re going through an ugly break up just exercise and meditate and it’ll have you feeling so much better.

7. Seek professional help

If you see that things are really out of your control and you really need the help, then maybe it’s time for you to seek professional help. There is nothing wrong with seeking out the help of a counselor or a therapist if the pain becomes to overwhelming. Talking to a therapist about your relationship might help uncover some of the underlying issues that are truly affecting you and are keeping you from moving on.

8. Grieve the loss of the relationship in a healthy and timely manner

Grieving is okay, specially after the end of a relationship. Allowing yourself to cry, scream, write or do whatever it is you do to grieve the loss of a relationship is normal and heathy as long as you don’t go overboard. You shouldn’t spend all day grieving but you also should not suppress all the negative emotions that you have regarding the situation. Find a healthy balance and handle it early on in the break up so that later these emotions don’t come back and haunt you later.

Breaking up is hard to do but you never have to do it alone. Just remember that there are always people willing to help you that have already experienced this. Keep yourself busy, exercise, meditate, read a good book but most importantly give yourself time. Break-ups are a a part of life that most of us have experienced but the good news is that no one has ever died from it. Time heals all wounds, just remember to keep your head up.