"Are You Guys Dating Or Just Hooking Up?"

By Karla Bennaton on March 5, 2016

The concept of dating has become compromised by our generation’s hook up culture in this day and age. There’s casual dating, serious dating, friends with benefits and then just straight hooking up with someone that you have no real interest in pursuing any type of relationship with. Your friends will constantly ask you, “Are you guys dating or just hooking up?” and the sad truth is half the time you’re not really sure what you guys are. College dating makes these relationships even harder to define, so if you’re stuck in a rut and not sure if this guy/girl you’re talking to really likes you or not, just keep these few things in mind:

1.  They only call or text you at night time.

If this individual only contacts you at what seems to be late hours of the night then its obvious that they only have one thing on their mind. When you really like someone you can take time out of your day to send quick “hello” or “how are you doing?”. This person might also be very busy during the day if you want give them the benefit of the doubt but chances are that they just want to hook up.

2. They introduce you to their friends.

If a guy or girl brings your around their friends it means that they want you to meet them so that they can get an honest opinion about you and whether you two should date or not. Most people value the opinion of their friends so this is a very important thing to take notice of. Someone who’s trying to date you would definitely introduce you to their friends.

3. They ask you out to dinner or coffee rather than just Netflix and chill.

This applies more to the ladies than anything but if someone just seems to want to hang out in their room and you never go past the four walls then there is a problem. Someone who likes you and is genuinely interested in getting to know you will want to go out and have fun with you outside of their bed. Let’s be honest, what does Netflix and chill usually lead to anyways?

4. You guys talk almost everyday on a regular basis.

This is definitely a sign that you guys are probably dating. A guy/girl that only wants to hookup with you would not take the time out of their day to text you or talk to you and see how you’re doing. Regular conversation also ensures consistency and also the possibility that they may only be talking to you, although you can never be too sure. But definitely consider this as a good sign that they’re actually trying to date you.

5. You engage in public displays of affection.

If you’re out with this person in public and you guys are kissing or holding hands, then this is an indicator that you two are definitely dating. If they were just hooking up with you then they would not want to be seen being affectionate with you in public. Just remember that next time you guys are out.

6. You know this person on a personal level.

You don’t just know their name or where they are from but you actually know real things about them like their hopes and dreams or something that most people don’t know about them. When someone truly likes you, they’re trying to get below the surface and that means more than knowing your birthday or just favorite color but important things like your fears or aspirations. Sharing personal information allows you to have a deeper connection with that individual and why else would they do this if they weren’t trying to date you?

7. They don’t bring up other people when you guys are together.

Whether it’s a friend or an ex, they will be very hesitant to talk about another person just so they don’t give you the wrong impression. They like you which means they respect you. If they talk about another person being hot or another guy/girl, they used to date then it’s probably not a good sign.

8. They’re not trying to have sex with you on the first date.

This might seem like the most obvious thing but you’d be surprised. If they’re trying to get you in bed on the first night, then this is an indicator that’s all they really want. Although there are special circumstances in which sex on the first night lead to dating, this is very rare so consider yourself lucky if this does happen.

The truth is the dating game is very unpredictable at times. Your best bet sometimes is to just trust your gut but if you’re still having doubts don’t be hesitant to just talk to them. If they’re honest then they will tell you what they really want from you but if not, you’ll have a pretty good idea where things are headed anyways. Good luck!

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