Handling a pet's death

Rest in peace, Simba.

Anyone who has ever had a pet knows the kind of bond that forms between the two. “A man’s best friend” isn’t a saying for nothing, after all.

But like any other living creature, eventually the time on earth that the pet has—whether it’s a cat, dog, hamster, guinea pig, or just about any other animal—will come to a close. It may be sudden—an unexpected accident, perhaps. Other times it’s after a long battle against a devastating disease. Either way, the pet’s family is left to grieve.

It’s tough to go through, to say the least. Everyone tells you that it will get better with time, but at the time you don’t see that. All you can focus on is the fact that you won’t hear your beloved cat’s meow again or the fact that you won’t be able to play a game of fetch with your dog again.

Just know that it does get better. It may not seem like it now, but it does. In the meantime, here are a few things I personally have been doing these last few days after getting the phone call that my 16-year-old handsome baby Simba had crossed the Rainbow Bridge.

1. Focus on the happy memories. My family adopted Simba when I was four and he was under a year old, so there are definitely plenty of memorable moments to reflect on. I have so many photos from over the years, and although it can be tough to look at them now, I am so grateful to have cherished memories photographed.
2. Recognize the grieving process. Don’t think that just because it was a pet and not another human that you aren’t allowed to grieve. The grieving process is natural and unique to each person, so don’t think you’re overreacting or aren’t reacting enough.
3. Talk to someone. Whether it’s a close friend who has also lost a pet or a professional counselor if you feel seeing one is necessary, talk to someone. They understand what you’re going through and can offer their own tips on how to manage the grieving process.
4. Look after yourself. Any traumatic event takes a physical and emotional toll on your body. Be sure to maintain a healthy diet and healthy sleep habits. Exercising releases endorphins in your body that will naturally boost your mood. If taking care of yourself is too difficult, seek professional help.

I am still in disbelief that Simba won’t be there to greet me at the door when I visit home in a few weeks, but at least I know he isn’t in any more pain. The grieving process is hard, but remember that it does get better.